Tom Daley’s husband Dustin Lance Black slams UK surrogacy laws and ‘backlash’

Tom Daley’s husband Dustin Lance Black slams UK surrogacy laws and ‘backlash’

Dustin Lance Black has slammed UK surrogacy laws while opening up on his desire to have more children with husband Tom Daley.

The couple, who welcomed son Robert Ray in June, don’t know who the biological father is and are still in touch with their baby’s surrogate mother.

He said: “We looked at many different options at the beginning. But I think it became clear we wanted a biological connection to our first born.

"Who knows where we are going to go from here! We might end up with ten, eleven. It takes eleven to make up a full football team right?"

Dustin, 44, was shocked by the "backlash" to their surrogacy plans because it is more commonplace in his native US.

Speaking on Lorraine, Dustin said he and Tom, 24, yearned for a connection to their child after losing close family members.

The screenwriter said: "Tom has lost his father, I had lost my mom and brother and you start to yearn for that connection that goes from your past to your future and surrogacy was one of the ways we could do it.

"We decided to go to America after we did our research. The law here is incredibly vague, if it exists at all. In the US and in most states, and in California in particular, it has very clear law."

On having the baby in the USA, he went on: “Good clear law creates good behaviour and it creates clear understanding. We both thought, ‘There are all these risks in this. Let’s keep ourselves, our surrogate and our eventual child as safe as possible. Lets’ go where there is the best law.’”

Dustin, who was discussing, ‘Surrogacy: A Family Frontier’, a new BBC Radio 5 Live podcast by Dustin Lance Black available on BBC Sounds, admitted becoming a father was an "extraordinary, life-changing" for the couple.

On being in touch with their surrogate mother, he continued: "When we first announced we were having a child, I didn’t realise there would be any backlash, because I come from a place where it is fairly common.

"We very quickly realised people here have some trouble with it and there were a lot of misconceptions, there are some concerns that are valid. And then there are some misconceptions and one of them is that this is just a transactional thing that happens between intended parents and surrogates. It’s really not."

On being in touch with their surrogate mother, he continued: "In the US… they encourage you to build a relationship with someone who will become your surrogate. You don’t enter into this until there is a friendship, a relationship there with her and her family and it’s an ongoing relationship for the rest of your life.

"Your child born of surrogacy has a right to know where they come from and the right to have a relationship with the person who brought them into this world. After a year and a half of spending this most intimate, beautiful time with this woman who’s given us this incredible gift, are you kidding me! She couldn’t get rid of us if she tried."

*Lorraine airs weekdays on ITV at 8.30am

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