My stepson is lazy and he's driving a wedge between my wife and I

My stepson is lazy and he's driving a wedge between my wife and I

DEAR DEIDRE: I HAVE a bone-idle stepson and it’s driving a wedge between me and my wife.

She’s so protective of him. He’s 23 and left university two years ago but still hasn’t got a job.

He has Asperger syndrome, which I realise makes things more difficult for him.

But he gets up late, does a few jobs his mum leaves him on a list then goes back to his room to use his PlayStation or watches TV.

I work my socks off six days a week. I leave the house at 5am. When I get home at 9pm, I have to cook him a meal – though I eat earlier at work.

My wife is usually in bed by then, as she too has an early start for work. I think he could cook his own meals for a start. Am I out of order?

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DEIDRE SAYS: Best not use language like “bone-idle” but do explain to your wife that her son really needs an active routine for his mental health.

Have a family meeting to draw up a rota for chores, with cooking part of that.

Volunteering would give him useful experience, boost his CV and help him to find paid work.

Suggest he checks out nhsvolunteerresponders.org.uk and do-it.org.

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